Pamela Price‘s new book, Gifted, Bullied, Resilient, describes the social stigma of being different, the pain of bullying, and the immense strength it takes to get through the damage, short-term and long-term, that such actions cause. For me, it was an eye-opening, third-person view into many of the social struggles I have faced.
In her prologue, Price offers a series of scenarios, which set the tone for her book. She draws from her own experiences as a parent and a professional, and provides a refreshingly honest description of the impacts bullying can have on people, even years afterward. Her tools for handling bullying as parents can be adjusted to fit many adult scenarios, particularly with regard to incidents at schools versus work.
Just recently I had a workplace experience in which my needs as a 2e adult were viewed as laziness, and I became the subject of relational aggression. A few weeks in, I read Gifted, Bullied, Resilient, and its descriptive nature helped me recognize what was going on. My efforts to address the situation had followed a path similar to what Price describes, and I was at a point where the next appropriate step was to remove myself from the situation. This book gave me the confidence to make that necessary decision.
Gifted, Bullied, Resilient also helped me to process these events afterwards. More than any other book on being gifted or autistic or 2e or food allergic or female or any combination thereof, it helped me feel that I was not alone in my experiences. It gave me the tools to recognize that the costs of staying at my previous position far exceeded the benefits, and to accept that that was not my fault. Chapter five, Nurturing resilience and healthy relationships, was especially helpful for me in this regard.
I have no doubt that I will experience bullying and relational aggression again in the future, but for the first time in my life, I feel I have some tools to help me handle it.